None of this is a magic recipe. Believe in yourself; believe in your friend. Realize that rape is about power, oppression, and control, so recovery must be about giving, loving, and sharing. It won’t be easy, but in the long run, both you and your friend will have grown more and learned more than you can ever imagine. Please use this docu- ment as something to help guide you through this process, but know that you might have to make your own list of things to do.